Things that will help #3

  1. “Imitation is the highest form of flattery” ~ A tough one- when you think you have come up with something new, brilliant, and particularly different. Especially in the age of social media, when it seems like everyone is fighting for space on the greenest grass. Maybe scroll and compare less, and spend more of that bonus time creating. Don’t get knocked off balance, and remember there is enough space for everyone to make an offering. Check that your intentions are on track, and that your ego is not driving the car.

  2. Dance Parties ~ I am lucky to have a small child who is obsessed with music. Currently, his favorites are Prince, Devo, The White Stripes and anyone who sings “Video Killed the Radio Star.” Remember that song? Daily, Otis requires that I stop what I’m doing to have dance parties with him, which have become a large part of my cardio workout. Our neighbors get quite the show, and we both work up a sweat. It is easily the best part of the day. Even if you don’t have a tiny coach like me, have a dance party daily anyway. Total anti-depressant.

  3. Stop Procrastinating~ Finish the manuscript. Clean out your inbox. Take the old bags to Goodwill. Change the oil. Clean out the garage. Write your mama a real letter, or if you are lucky enough to still have her nearby, cook her supper. Put down your phone and look at your people. Forgive the friend you are holding hurt about- and call them.

  4. Clean your headlights~ Every couple of years, have someone clean the inside of the plastic that protects your headlight. The first time I did this I couldn’t believe how well I could see at night on the road. Little thing- big clarity.

  5. Fill someone’s bucket~ As soon as you start wondering why something isn’t happening for you, spend some energy filling someone’s bucket. Ask how you can help, and do something that takes your mind off your own emptiness. Make a casserole, run an errand for someone, or pick them up off the floor. It is the fastest way to rise out of your own shit. It helps everyone.

  6. “Desperation is unsustainable”- Cheryl Strayed. Yes it is, Cheryl. Yes it is.

  7. Broccoli~ If you know broccoli is good for you, but, like me you don’t love it, here’s what to do. Get a few organic heads of fresh broccoli. Cut it into VERY TINY pieces (this is the key step), and put it on a baking sheet. Toss with olive oil, salt and pepper. Bake until CRISPY at 375 degrees. Way better than your average broccoli situation, and as delicious as french fries. Well, almost.

  8. Be better at loving than you are at judging. It helps your insides heal and it makes everyone around you want to do it too. Gossip and judging breed more of the same. Love does too, thank goodness.