As I iron out the space, time and energy to write this note, I am aware of the chubby to-do list on my desk, the pressing emails and phone calls not returned yet- and the limp laundry still in the dryer from 3 days ago.  Everyone I know is busy and seems to be getting busier.  In my life I cannot remember a day (since before I was ten- and even then ….) that I did not have a swirl of priorities to organize, pick from and sort.

For many of us, it is easy to find ourselves in the current of CRISIS,  because we are slinging ourselves from one thing to another and barely landing and breathing fully in each experience.  Instead of feeling each moment and connection entirely, we are dodging bullets and running interference for the next thing reeling across our path.  STOP DOING THIS.

I have a few ideas that might help.

The phone has become an obsession for many, and the amount we check, recheck, and triple-check to see if we received a text since 42 seconds ago is insane.  Put that smart phone in a smart case in the BACKSEAT while you drive to your next event.  Try checking your phone 3 times a day only.  I can absolutely guarantee your mind will feel less cluttered, your breath deeper and wider, and you will feel less congested and soooooo less busy with just this minor adjustment.

Ask for help.

Where you feel like you are sagging at the seams and losing your grip on your week, ask for help when and where you can, in order to land back in a healthy mindset.   Get to know what makes you vibrant and ready and radiant to face the world.  For myself, an active yoga and meditation practice, lots of water,  a little dark chocolate, a healthy dose of alone time, good soul music and dear friends is essential to cinch me back into Buffy.  I know what works to keep me tuned in and tuned up, and I have learned to communicate that with crystal clarity to my beloved, my family and friends, and my students.  Everyone who depends on me is served by a better breathed Buffy~~ and in your life it’s the same.

Ask for help, time, or space- whatever the ingredient -so you can calibrate to less crisis and more treasure. (p.s.  your loved ones will help when they can, kindly say no when they can’t, and love you in between and always) Some of us LIKE the swirl of crisis-…it feels creative and even festive at times to be in a rainbow of BUSY-ness and telling others about it all the time.  I encourage you to change the language, simplify the venting, and get yourself back to breath.  It is the maintenance of those things that ground us (THE PRACTICE) that serves in moments of difficulty.

Take the time daily to DEEPLY care for yourself, find the nooks and crannies of the day to press yourself into gratitude, and you won’t feel the frantic rush daily.

It works, I promise.

Go make yourself a cup of tea in a real cup in your real home, and nestle into a real book.  Take deep breaths with your eyes closed and soft while the tea kettle comes to a boil, and inhale the essentials and exhale what residue you no longer need. Live your life like you are unwrapping a gift.  Each breath and each moment is just that.  You can do this~ with full time jobs, babies, very little money, health concerns, old or young……..It is about your perspective.  Even when things feel hard, investigate the teachings potentially hidden in the hard ~~ it’s where the richest treasures are.