I tend to be on the fiery side of reactive. I know…..I am a yogi, but my temper has been something I have always had to work on. Yoga has certainly helped to round out some of my edges, but I sometimes still react quick with hurt. I am still learning to navigate my reactive tendencies, and here are some tips I have learned along the way. If you are close to me, you probably have seem my Kali-red come out at some point~ and I am grateful to have the lessons as part of my practice.
1. PAUSE YOUR AGENDA AND SOFTEN YOUR OUTER CRUST.
If you are only coming to conflict with YOUR agenda~ then there is no possibility for growth or a new perspective. While in conflict, to LEARN, you have to soften and be a bit more porous than usual, so that new information and helpful insight can soak in. Otherwise you might be very lonely very quick. Now ~ I am not suggesting tossing your experience or feelings and becoming a doormat ~ No ma’am. But do be a little pliable so you can evolve.
2. LISTEN TO THE OTHER SIDE WITHOUT INTERRUPTING
Um- so very hard. sigh. Cause ~ well ~ what about ME, right? Yes, well, they have a ME, too. Be a good listener and model receptivity. It goes miles for softening the entire room and healing everyone’s sadness.
3. BE VULNERABLE ENOUGH TO SEE YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR
As soon as you begin to admit where you can refine and get better, you heal and so do they. […]